Taking it slow in dating
Now onto part two: I have never, ever been in a situation with someone I really liked and thought, hhmm you know what would make this situation better? It’s the equivalent of starting to work out/eat healthy, losing some weight, loving how you look and then deciding the best thing to do next is eat more and work out less. And so I say to all the people out there on the receiving end of the, “let’s take things a little slower” bullshit – walk away. The goal is for the other person to feel as though they cannot get enough of you.
The scales of love in a relationship aren’t always balanced.
DO NOT envision or plan the future in your head, or plug him into your life before you know whether he is worthy of being a big part of your life.
Enjoy what’s in front of you and let go of the need to define “what this is” or “where this is going.” Simply enjoy and allow it to unfold without clinging to what you hope will happen.
It could turn out blissful, or it could crash and burn. Whatever happens, the lesson in all of this is that your heart is healthy and capable of loving again, and that is amazing, isn’t it?
It sounds like you have been lonely for such a long time, so enjoy this woman.
Or if he’s emotionally unavailable and was only acting like bae material to get into your pants.My kids are my focus and that was truly enough for me. We started talking, reminiscing – we clicked as if we had been the best of friends for the 20 years, even though we had not seen or even talked to each other during this time (other than the occasional Facebook like or comment). Now, we both are matured, have experienced divorce and all it’s tribulations (her more so than me) and professionals in our respective fields. Not sure I know what taking things slow truly means?I also have no interest in dating others, and not because I reconnected with her – it’s just not who I am? I honestly could not wait to respond to this man, because I was jumping for joy while reading this!I believe everyone is on their best behavior for at least 2 years, especially after a divorce, so my opinion would be DO NOT put a ring on her finger for at least 2 years.All that said, I disagree with Jason that you should “date a few different people.” I personally have never been very good at dating more than one person at a time.
No one’s talking about flying home together for the holidays or taking a road trip to some wedding.